thoughts: june ’19


Friction. I get bogged down when there’s more than one are of friction, whether it be work, life, personal, etc.

And I feel so down and helpless when people and/or processes bog me down. A sample of incidents that brought me down include

  • My manager continuing to criticize me because she has no idea what is going on and sends me blocks of text with weirdly detailed requests.
  • When the friendly clerk at the apostille office tells me that my power of attorney documentation isn’t complete and that I need to go to a different office to authenticate.
  • When customer support at Herman Miller is asking me for additional photos of their faulty chair that I already packed to return.
  • When my sister asks for details / info that I don’t have because this is the first time for me too.
  • When a recruiter, who first reached out to see if I was interested in a role, asks me why there is a gap in my work history.

Today was one of those days when the last thing I wanted to do was be productive.


Waiting to meet a new mentor at the lobby for ten minutes feels like an eternity when you are trying to impress them.

Reminds me of dating days.


Photo by Micheile Henderson on Unsplash

sharing is caring: #65


1. Sensible financial advice to keep mindful of, especially the one below.

Buy a collection of low-cost investments like index funds, which will track different certain segments of the stock and bond markets, that provide exposure to businesses around the world. The most important factor is coming up with the right mix of aggressive investments (stocks) and conservative ones (bonds) that you can stomach…

2. Self kindness and compassion is hard but worth embracing. Think about the following questions to overcome failure.

  • What’s the worst that can happen?
  • Then, can you deal with that outcome? What resources do you have to handle it?
  • What are some possible benefits of your failure, even if the situation doesn’t work out? 

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sharing is caring: #64


1. Hollywood is starting to re-examine the stereotypical bad feminist boss — but jury’s still.

Often they are conceived of as good at their jobs but bad at being human, like Miranda Priestly of “The Devil Wears Prada.” Though they are pitched as evidence of feminist progress, they don’t act like feminists. And their preferred targets are young women who hope, some day, to claim power, too.

The ruthlessly competent ladyboss gets a bad rap. But perhaps the more troublesome archetype is that of the bright young woman who rises to power without compromising her values at all. She makes it seem as if all of the problems of power can be neatly resolved by one plucky individual.

2. Airdrop is the new location based social networking app for teenagers.Read More »

sharing is caring: #63


1. Imposter syndrome is everywhere, including race!

But when your racial background is complicated, that inability to put a simple label on yourself can make searching for who you are even more confusing because, in a way, you’re discouraged from searching. I’ve been pushed out of groups, and my membership questioned. People feel free to choose labels for me. This makes it hard to form a true sense of self.

2. How to finally write that non-fiction book.Read More »